A Day of a Mom of 2

Hello, I am Eszter.
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I have a son, who is 4.5 years old.
I also have a daughter, who is 1.5 years old.
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Since I became a mom of 2, I get easily distracted so I prefer to read articles, which you can easily come back to.
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If you need to take a break, no need to blush. Let me find a picture of myself so this can become more personal for you. Even better, I will take a shot of myself right now:

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I will share with you a day of mine, a day when Zoard is not in kindergarten.

OUR DAILY “SCHEDULE”

6 – we wake up
Breakfast
Messing around (free play)
I tidy up
8:30 – we go out (I previously discuss with Zoard what he is willing to put on with 1 alternative option or none)
10 – we have a snack (I usually tell Zoard ahead what lunch will be when possible)
I play with them both and I read to them
12 – lunch: many times my husband is in charge of our lunch
13 – Assya’s nap time starts (she naps for 2 hours)
Together time with Zoard (when we are in Thailand he goes swimming with my husband)
14 – Zoard’s nap time starts (he also naps for 2 hours)
15 – Assya wakes up and she has together time with me
16 – Zoard wakes up and we prepare for snack time
16:30 Snack time
17 we go out
18:30 dinner time
19 Together time with Assya
19:30-20 Bedtime for Assya
Together time with Zoard (unless he is out with my husband)
21 Bedtime for Zoard

I will attach some pictures and I will share with you my weaknesses, which are:
cooking with kids around and dinner time.

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The schedule above is what we stick to when we are in Thailand and mostly on weekends when we are in Hungary. This picture is a pretty typical one from Thailand.

There are three categories of conflicts that can be triggered with Zoard.

1. Clothes
2. Food
3. And how we get to from A to B

1.)

Zoard has the same set of inside clothes that he picks out and wears until I tell him it has to be washed.

He has to take his clothes off while he eats and wear an underwear.

He has clothes for outside playing and photo shootings. It is not rare that I carry in my backpack his clothes for playing outside. Scroll back to the picture I just posted and look at his shoes. His outside clothes do not just have a few small holes and stains on them, some look like rags. Which is fine. There is a time for many things.

2.)

I now try to tell both kids ahead what they will eat. They can have sugarless snacks way before sleeping time. Everyone knows their own kids the best. Zoard and Assya really need to get their sleep otherwise they are cranky and fruit sugar effects their sleep, mood, energy level.

3.)

Zoard is the calmest when there is one way we go to places. If he gets the chance to make his own decision about how to go from A to B, he becomes one, who looks for an argument. He becomes frustrated and even violent because after he had picked out a route, he becomes uneasy when he feels like changing his mind or when the next day, we cannot take that same route.

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For us, this schedule and the three triggers we pay attention to, helps a lot. It is much easier to say yes to everything else.

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As you might have noticed, the popular term “me time” is missing from my schedule. Yes, we follow this schedule for a maximum of a month (when we are in Thailand) because otherwise, Zoard has kindergarten. When we are in Thailand, I do not go running, I do not meet anyone or have my hair done. I am absolutely fine with this since it is the price of being together. And I do get a lot of help from my husband!

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Cooking with the kids around and dinner time is somewhat stressful for me. Many times, my husband cooks while I play with the kids. Or I make something very simple or I come up with a way to get the children involved in a safe way. I do not make lasagne in the company of Zoard and Assya.

Do you follow some rules at your home? Maybe even a schedule? Do you know what triggers your children’s grumpiness? And what helps?

Thank you for reading this post and say hello if you use Instagram @zoardandassya !

xoxo, Eszter

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A Typical Day of a Stay-at-home-Mom of a Baby and a Preschooler

This blog post will show you a typical day of mine.

Just so you know, this is the 5th country we are living in. We are currently on an island in Thailand.

Assya will be 9 months old this week.

Zoard is 3.5 years old.

6:30

Zoard is the first one up. He wakes me up by telling me what kind of pretend play he would like us to start playing. Right now.

I am Minnie Mouse

Assya can be Pluto.

And there will be lots of babies with us including Zoard, who is a super special 1 year old.

I change Assya’s diaper.

Zoard pees in his potty. I pour the pee in the toilet and I clean the potty with Dettol.

I post on Instagram @zoardandassya .

7:00

I let Zoard make his own breakfast since there is just a little milk left in the bottle and I presume he can handle pouring from the cereal box.

I give Zoard some water to drink.

I give Assya her Vitamin D.

A day of a child from my perspective is full of mini tasks. And if you add up all these mini tasks then your day just flew by. I met someone once, who peed 25 days a day. So her day had to be planned around finding toilets. 

I change Assya’s diaper again (poo) and I smile at the fact that we changed her diapers to pull-ups. She likes standing up and hates being on her back so it started to be a real struggle to change her diaper.

I take the trash out.

I wash my hands.

I nurse.

I read my emails and I answer some questions for a blog post of a nice mom from Dubai.

Soon you will see lots of pictures in this blog post. 

I eat breakfast.

I tidy up on the floor.

I dress Assya and Zoard up for a photo shooting and we go outside. By photo shooting I mean, I take pictures of them every single day for Instagram. Today we took a picture for a page (they have 625k followers on Instagram) that comes up with a daily theme. GREEN is the theme on @jjcommunity but you will see soon my interpretation. I also took a picture of Zoard for a children’s clothes shop. He is one of their brand ambassadors.

 

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In Thailand you cannot drink the tap water so after our little fun outside, we head to a small shop called Family Mart. I cannot pay with my bank card so we go back to our home passing the reception (we live in a service apartment).
I kindly tell the receptionist that we only have one chair to sit on and it would be nice to have 2 more. I also explain as simply as I can that we asked for 2 cots and it is great that gave us 2 but one of them has a mini mattress in it and we would like the size of the mattress to match the size of the cot.

9:00

Snack time and Assya’s Frist nap

This is the most challenging for me. This is how it went today:

I put an egg to boil on the stove.

I give them both a bath because I like to say yes to sweet ideas of Zoard (this was Assya’s first time in a bath tub with Zoard)

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I try to wash the markers off their face. So hard. I feel so guilty.

I give toys to Zoard to continue taking his bath.

I massage Assya with coconut oil and she gets a clean diaper.

I find a can of tuna for Zoard’s snack: mashed boiled egg with tuna and plain yogurt.

9:15

I nurse Assya.

I pull the curtains and I start to hum rock-a-bye-baby.

I remember that we left the apartment so I need to put the wifi back on my phone.

I put Assya down for her nap.

I take Zoard out of the bath tub.

I peel Zoard’s eggs.

I put Assya down again. She stood up.

I drain the tuna.

I wash my hands.

I put Assya down again. She stood up.

I open a cup of yogurt to Zoard and explain to him how to mix all the ingredients in front of him in a bowl.

I put Assya down again and I start patting her bum.

9:30

I quickly edit the picture I took for the green theme.

I start peeling rambutan for Zoard.

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I take the trash out and I clean the floor. I managed to drip rambutan juice everywhere.

10:15

Assya wakes up from her short nap.

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Zoard is super happy that I let him climb in to Assya’s cot.

Cleaner lady knocks on the door. I tell her that we do not need cleaning but we would love it if she would take away Zoard’s miniature mattress and replace it with one that is the size of the cot, he sleeps in.

I start hanging clothes to dry.

10:45

Zoard starts throwing the coat hangers in the washing machine for fun. We have a good laugh but eventually, I have to make him stop.

Zoard helps me hang some clothes. Assya plays with the hangers.

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We still do not have any drinking water at home so I ask Zoard to pee. I pour his pee down the toilet. I wash the potty with Dettol and I ask Zoard to get dressed.

I remember that we need to wash our feet. We are bare feet all the time. I also remember to wash my teeth and Zoard’s.

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OK, I admit the previous picture with the sausage sticking out of my head is a selfie I took when we already reached Family Mart. And this lovely picture was taken when we were almost ready to leave….

11:25

There is a mini playground where we live at.

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We stop at the playground after we bought our two bottles of water which I put in a backpack. Carrier plus backpack! – it is not as bad as it sounds.

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11:45

Zoard gets a 2 minutes reminder, that we need to go home.

We play a bit while we wait for daddy to save the day by quickly whipping up some healthy lunch for us.

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We have lunch around noon and then we play some more until it is time for the nap time story.

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This is our before nap time scene: we are in a subway (=wardrobe). My husband’s lunch break ends and my second most challenging task begins.

13:00

Nap time story: a story that I have made up. I do these kind of things upon request. HAHA

Nursing.

13:20

Assya sleeps in her cot next to our bed.

Zoard does not have a mattress, not even a mini one, now that the cleaning lady took it away.

I lay next to Zoard on the couch and I hum Wheels on the Bus. (Requested song of the day.)

13:40

They are both sleeping. I start writing this blog post.

14:05

Assya wakes up. I nurse her while I change her diaper. I hum her back to sleep.

I write.

15:30

Assya wakes up again….

xoxo

 

 

 

 

 

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