A Day of a Mom of 2

Hello, I am Eszter.
I have a son, who is 4.5 years old.
I also have a daughter, who is 1.5 years old.
Since I became a mom of 2, I get easily distracted so I prefer to read articles, which you can easily come back to.
If you need to take a break, no need to blush. Let me find a picture of myself so this can become more personal for you. Even better, I will take a shot of myself right now:


I will share with you a day of mine, a day when Zoard is not in kindergarten.


6 – we wake up
Messing around (free play)
I tidy up
8:30 – we go out (I previously discuss with Zoard what he is willing to put on with 1 alternative option or none)
10 – we have a snack (I usually tell Zoard ahead what lunch will be when possible)
I play with them both and I read to them
12 – lunch: many times my husband is in charge of our lunch
13 – Assya’s nap time starts (she naps for 2 hours)
Together time with Zoard (when we are in Thailand he goes swimming with my husband)
14 – Zoard’s nap time starts (he also naps for 2 hours)
15 – Assya wakes up and she has together time with me
16 – Zoard wakes up and we prepare for snack time
16:30 Snack time
17 we go out
18:30 dinner time
19 Together time with Assya
19:30-20 Bedtime for Assya
Together time with Zoard (unless he is out with my husband)
21 Bedtime for Zoard

I will attach some pictures and I will share with you my weaknesses, which are:
cooking with kids around and dinner time.


The schedule above is what we stick to when we are in Thailand and mostly on weekends when we are in Hungary. This picture is a pretty typical one from Thailand.

There are three categories of conflicts that can be triggered with Zoard.

1. Clothes
2. Food
3. And how we get to from A to B


Zoard has the same set of inside clothes that he picks out and wears until I tell him it has to be washed.

He has to take his clothes off while he eats and wear an underwear.

He has clothes for outside playing and photo shootings. It is not rare that I carry in my backpack his clothes for playing outside. Scroll back to the picture I just posted and look at his shoes. His outside clothes do not just have a few small holes and stains on them, some look like rags. Which is fine. There is a time for many things.


I now try to tell both kids ahead what they will eat. They can have sugarless snacks way before sleeping time. Everyone knows their own kids the best. Zoard and Assya really need to get their sleep otherwise they are cranky and fruit sugar effects their sleep, mood, energy level.


Zoard is the calmest when there is one way we go to places. If he gets the chance to make his own decision about how to go from A to B, he becomes one, who looks for an argument. He becomes frustrated and even violent because after he had picked out a route, he becomes uneasy when he feels like changing his mind or when the next day, we cannot take that same route.


For us, this schedule and the three triggers we pay attention to, helps a lot. It is much easier to say yes to everything else.


As you might have noticed, the popular term “me time” is missing from my schedule. Yes, we follow this schedule for a maximum of a month (when we are in Thailand) because otherwise, Zoard has kindergarten. When we are in Thailand, I do not go running, I do not meet anyone or have my hair done. I am absolutely fine with this since it is the price of being together. And I do get a lot of help from my husband!


Cooking with the kids around and dinner time is somewhat stressful for me. Many times, my husband cooks while I play with the kids. Or I make something very simple or I come up with a way to get the children involved in a safe way. I do not make lasagne in the company of Zoard and Assya.

Do you follow some rules at your home? Maybe even a schedule? Do you know what triggers your children’s grumpiness? And what helps?

Thank you for reading this post and say hello if you use Instagram @zoardandassya !

xoxo, Eszter


Message in The…

…Sand. We live on an island so this is a good way to communicate, right?!

I met this really nice couple yesterday at the beach. They have a cute daughter called Michelle who started off our blooming friendship by giving Zoard a flower. Shortly after this, Zoard gave her a seashell.  We talked, we joked around and then we had to go quickly and all I said was, we will see you around at this same beach, right?! And they nodded. Firmly. I am not mistaken.

Zoard and I walked back to the same spot in the morning and I was very disappointed to find an empty beach. Fortunately there was a bamboo stick laying in the sand so I wrote them the following:

G + A + M (the mother is Gala and the father is Alex)
After 4?

Zoard and I got ready a few minutes before 4 o’clock. Zoárd suggested we take a present:

But we ended up taking a coin as our first playdate gift which later Zoárd became unsure about:


Most of my message vanished by the time we got there except maybe for the essence of it…


However G, A and little M never showed up.

There were plenty of airplanes to spot so I am not saying we did not have a good time…


I explained to Zoárd how trees grow out of a seed…


We did other “stuff” as well:


And we kept our spirit up:


So I know what you are all asking to yourself. Could this be another message to A, G and M?!
And the answer is, of course!!!!
See you tomorrow after 4….

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Activities with my Toddler

You might have wanted to read about activities with Your toddler but all I can do is share with you what I do with Zoard and hope that I inspire you in one way or another. Thanks for jumping on board!

As all toddlers, Zoard loves to help out. When I was 18 and I was living with my grandma, I did not understand what I know now: quality does not matter! When someone is ill, old or very, very young it does not matter at all how WELL they help us with various chores.

Zoard loves to stir daddy’s coffee. He can also use some coffee machines and he can say decaf latte (for) mammy.

In Thailand it is not always easy to find products made for children that are safe. If you are thinking arts-and-crafts you would need to find a shopping center that sells stuff from Western countries and it will cost a lot. So we haven’t tried finger painting yet but we did sell the silverware and bought some markers.


I am really excited about this so may I brag with one more picture? His…

I ain’t know psychologist but he is talented! Wait! I am a psychologist!! HAHA

Here are my ideas when it comes to playing with Play-doh and tell me yours…
Zoard is younger than the recommended age for Play-doh but he does not put things in his mouth so we are super lucky in this sense. As this being said, he is still pretty young so he needs guiding. I give him bottle caps and pencils to make shapes. I always start off by making him a base as I call it. This is actually how I started him off on Duplo as well. By giving him a base to build on.


After he gets tired of making shapes, I make him mini balls and he can either put them back in to the holes we previously made or we start making a so called ball tower. A tower made of balls. I really have to encourage him to press the little balls hard when he places them on top of each other.


Building towers are tricky. Usually I have to be very quick to make a foundation that will be strong enough for Zoard’s working hands. He has been playing with Duplo for five months now so he is very good with it but nevertheless, he needs to focus when we are working on a masterpiece and sometimes I give him parallel projects just to make sure he does not lose interest.


Oh and I do talk a lot. He needs full attention when doing something grand as such. Wink wink.

I am not sure when make believe playing starts, simply because I haven’t read in to it yet and I forgot what I studied in child’s development… (oh just found an interesting article on intersubjectivity 😛 )But Zoard is starting to give water to the Duplo figures and he appreciates it if I play with his camel and dog for example. The story was that Dog had to find shoes for Camel…


I will finish this blog post before Zoard wakes up from his nap and if you were wondering if we ever go outside then the answer is for sure! It is essential, no matter where you live. Bangkok is not ideal, living in a hotel on a mountain can be challenging but it is sort of the right a child has to be outdoors, you know…


Please share any thoughts and ideas you might have. And find us on Instagram! My username is: krokovayeszter.