A Day of a Mom of 2

Hello, I am Eszter.
I have a son, who is 4.5 years old.
I also have a daughter, who is 1.5 years old.
Since I became a mom of 2, I get easily distracted so I prefer to read articles, which you can easily come back to.
If you need to take a break, no need to blush. Let me find a picture of myself so this can become more personal for you. Even better, I will take a shot of myself right now:


I will share with you a day of mine, a day when Zoard is not in kindergarten.


6 – we wake up
Messing around (free play)
I tidy up
8:30 – we go out (I previously discuss with Zoard what he is willing to put on with 1 alternative option or none)
10 – we have a snack (I usually tell Zoard ahead what lunch will be when possible)
I play with them both and I read to them
12 – lunch: many times my husband is in charge of our lunch
13 – Assya’s nap time starts (she naps for 2 hours)
Together time with Zoard (when we are in Thailand he goes swimming with my husband)
14 – Zoard’s nap time starts (he also naps for 2 hours)
15 – Assya wakes up and she has together time with me
16 – Zoard wakes up and we prepare for snack time
16:30 Snack time
17 we go out
18:30 dinner time
19 Together time with Assya
19:30-20 Bedtime for Assya
Together time with Zoard (unless he is out with my husband)
21 Bedtime for Zoard

I will attach some pictures and I will share with you my weaknesses, which are:
cooking with kids around and dinner time.


The schedule above is what we stick to when we are in Thailand and mostly on weekends when we are in Hungary. This picture is a pretty typical one from Thailand.

There are three categories of conflicts that can be triggered with Zoard.

1. Clothes
2. Food
3. And how we get to from A to B


Zoard has the same set of inside clothes that he picks out and wears until I tell him it has to be washed.

He has to take his clothes off while he eats and wear an underwear.

He has clothes for outside playing and photo shootings. It is not rare that I carry in my backpack his clothes for playing outside. Scroll back to the picture I just posted and look at his shoes. His outside clothes do not just have a few small holes and stains on them, some look like rags. Which is fine. There is a time for many things.


I now try to tell both kids ahead what they will eat. They can have sugarless snacks way before sleeping time. Everyone knows their own kids the best. Zoard and Assya really need to get their sleep otherwise they are cranky and fruit sugar effects their sleep, mood, energy level.


Zoard is the calmest when there is one way we go to places. If he gets the chance to make his own decision about how to go from A to B, he becomes one, who looks for an argument. He becomes frustrated and even violent because after he had picked out a route, he becomes uneasy when he feels like changing his mind or when the next day, we cannot take that same route.


For us, this schedule and the three triggers we pay attention to, helps a lot. It is much easier to say yes to everything else.


As you might have noticed, the popular term “me time” is missing from my schedule. Yes, we follow this schedule for a maximum of a month (when we are in Thailand) because otherwise, Zoard has kindergarten. When we are in Thailand, I do not go running, I do not meet anyone or have my hair done. I am absolutely fine with this since it is the price of being together. And I do get a lot of help from my husband!


Cooking with the kids around and dinner time is somewhat stressful for me. Many times, my husband cooks while I play with the kids. Or I make something very simple or I come up with a way to get the children involved in a safe way. I do not make lasagne in the company of Zoard and Assya.

Do you follow some rules at your home? Maybe even a schedule? Do you know what triggers your children’s grumpiness? And what helps?

Thank you for reading this post and say hello if you use Instagram @zoardandassya !

xoxo, Eszter


My Biggest Conflict With My Son Is…

I do not HAVE TO start by stating that Zoard is easy to get along with but it is true that explaining to him things and distracting him when needed works pretty well on him so we do not have mayor conflicts about food or when to leave the playground.

People used to tell me “I have never heard him cry”. Well, I am a yes man and it is my job to be super sensitive to others when I wish to be…

The problem we are facing is that he finds it very difficult to do something without mammy or daddy.

I am an extremely needy person so I understand that it is great to be around your loved ones but we are at the point where I feel that if he would be ten percent as needy as he is now, I would feel much much better in my shoes. And this has been going on for a long time now so it shows that I was able to live with his neediness because our lifestyle encouraged him to be this way, plus as I said, I get it: it is very nice to share all your excitements and challenges with the ones you love the most…

It is just the two of us nice since a week ago my husband left to Thailand so I thought this is the time to make a change. I wrote my diploma in assertive behavior so I do not necessarily find it hard to say no to others. We have done quite a few sleep training so I think my heart does not brake anymore when Zoard starts crying.

I dislike the sound of loud crying, that is probably nothing new to say. But now Zoard is starting to lose his voice and it is so tough to do this that I am writing about it! HAHA

You treat laryngitis by plenty of fluids and resting the voice. I could easily say, I will do this training or whatever we call it some other time. But there is always something that comes up with us. Many times I try to protect him from frustration because well “we just moved”. But we moved more than ten times in the past months.

Now that I do not have housekeepers, chefs and engineers help me out, it is extremely hard to do any house work with a toddler who gets super irritated by the fact that I do not go and play with him. I try to engage him in whatever I do and that works for a certain amount of the time. But taking a shower or having a phone call is on the devil’s list if you ask Zoard.

In respectful parenting one technique is to sit by your child and just observe him playing. You can also use a type of mirroring language like for example when he says big truck, you do not say good job, you say that is a fantastic red huge truck and I saw that you even put a siren on top of it. This should help the child internalize a little monologue that he will be able to do by himself later on.

So maybe I should just stick to this and not throw Zoard in deep water when it makes him beyond upset causing his laryngitis to get worse.

Luckily I do not feel self-pitty but objectively I can see that it is not normal that I can hardly sit down to eat or go to the toilet. These are your problems when you have a newborn!

I did have a mini success today so I quickly took a picture.

I personally think that mini furniture and mini objects that help young children copy the adult world is really good! We use my nursing chair’s stool as a mini table and sometimes Zoard has a snack on it. And in these cases I do not have to be an arm away from him.


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