A Typical Day of a Stay-at-home-Mom of a Baby and a Preschooler

This blog post will show you a typical day of mine.

Just so you know, this is the 5th country we are living in. We are currently on an island in Thailand.

Assya will be 9 months old this week.

Zoard is 3.5 years old.

6:30

Zoard is the first one up. He wakes me up by telling me what kind of pretend play he would like us to start playing. Right now.

I am Minnie Mouse

Assya can be Pluto.

And there will be lots of babies with us including Zoard, who is a super special 1 year old.

I change Assya’s diaper.

Zoard pees in his potty. I pour the pee in the toilet and I clean the potty with Dettol.

I post on Instagram @zoardandassya .

7:00

I let Zoard make his own breakfast since there is just a little milk left in the bottle and I presume he can handle pouring from the cereal box.

I give Zoard some water to drink.

I give Assya her Vitamin D.

A day of a child from my perspective is full of mini tasks. And if you add up all these mini tasks then your day just flew by. I met someone once, who peed 25 days a day. So her day had to be planned around finding toilets. 

I change Assya’s diaper again (poo) and I smile at the fact that we changed her diapers to pull-ups. She likes standing up and hates being on her back so it started to be a real struggle to change her diaper.

I take the trash out.

I wash my hands.

I nurse.

I read my emails and I answer some questions for a blog post of a nice mom from Dubai.

Soon you will see lots of pictures in this blog post. 

I eat breakfast.

I tidy up on the floor.

I dress Assya and Zoard up for a photo shooting and we go outside. By photo shooting I mean, I take pictures of them every single day for Instagram. Today we took a picture for a page (they have 625k followers on Instagram) that comes up with a daily theme. GREEN is the theme on @jjcommunity but you will see soon my interpretation. I also took a picture of Zoard for a children’s clothes shop. He is one of their brand ambassadors.

 

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In Thailand you cannot drink the tap water so after our little fun outside, we head to a small shop called Family Mart. I cannot pay with my bank card so we go back to our home passing the reception (we live in a service apartment).
I kindly tell the receptionist that we only have one chair to sit on and it would be nice to have 2 more. I also explain as simply as I can that we asked for 2 cots and it is great that gave us 2 but one of them has a mini mattress in it and we would like the size of the mattress to match the size of the cot.

9:00

Snack time and Assya’s Frist nap

This is the most challenging for me. This is how it went today:

I put an egg to boil on the stove.

I give them both a bath because I like to say yes to sweet ideas of Zoard (this was Assya’s first time in a bath tub with Zoard)

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I try to wash the markers off their face. So hard. I feel so guilty.

I give toys to Zoard to continue taking his bath.

I massage Assya with coconut oil and she gets a clean diaper.

I find a can of tuna for Zoard’s snack: mashed boiled egg with tuna and plain yogurt.

9:15

I nurse Assya.

I pull the curtains and I start to hum rock-a-bye-baby.

I remember that we left the apartment so I need to put the wifi back on my phone.

I put Assya down for her nap.

I take Zoard out of the bath tub.

I peel Zoard’s eggs.

I put Assya down again. She stood up.

I drain the tuna.

I wash my hands.

I put Assya down again. She stood up.

I open a cup of yogurt to Zoard and explain to him how to mix all the ingredients in front of him in a bowl.

I put Assya down again and I start patting her bum.

9:30

I quickly edit the picture I took for the green theme.

I start peeling rambutan for Zoard.

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I take the trash out and I clean the floor. I managed to drip rambutan juice everywhere.

10:15

Assya wakes up from her short nap.

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Zoard is super happy that I let him climb in to Assya’s cot.

Cleaner lady knocks on the door. I tell her that we do not need cleaning but we would love it if she would take away Zoard’s miniature mattress and replace it with one that is the size of the cot, he sleeps in.

I start hanging clothes to dry.

10:45

Zoard starts throwing the coat hangers in the washing machine for fun. We have a good laugh but eventually, I have to make him stop.

Zoard helps me hang some clothes. Assya plays with the hangers.

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We still do not have any drinking water at home so I ask Zoard to pee. I pour his pee down the toilet. I wash the potty with Dettol and I ask Zoard to get dressed.

I remember that we need to wash our feet. We are bare feet all the time. I also remember to wash my teeth and Zoard’s.

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OK, I admit the previous picture with the sausage sticking out of my head is a selfie I took when we already reached Family Mart. And this lovely picture was taken when we were almost ready to leave….

11:25

There is a mini playground where we live at.

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We stop at the playground after we bought our two bottles of water which I put in a backpack. Carrier plus backpack! – it is not as bad as it sounds.

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11:45

Zoard gets a 2 minutes reminder, that we need to go home.

We play a bit while we wait for daddy to save the day by quickly whipping up some healthy lunch for us.

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We have lunch around noon and then we play some more until it is time for the nap time story.

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This is our before nap time scene: we are in a subway (=wardrobe). My husband’s lunch break ends and my second most challenging task begins.

13:00

Nap time story: a story that I have made up. I do these kind of things upon request. HAHA

Nursing.

13:20

Assya sleeps in her cot next to our bed.

Zoard does not have a mattress, not even a mini one, now that the cleaning lady took it away.

I lay next to Zoard on the couch and I hum Wheels on the Bus. (Requested song of the day.)

13:40

They are both sleeping. I start writing this blog post.

14:05

Assya wakes up. I nurse her while I change her diaper. I hum her back to sleep.

I write.

15:30

Assya wakes up again….

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I have been exercising in the morning. Assya usually watches me from our bed or her rocker. And Zoard is either folding clothes on our bed, getting his friends dressed up or he is painting.

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Hello from Thailand

It is not always easy to know which country we are in. Maybe that is part of who we are. Nomads.

Today I am writing from Thailand. We packed up are things a week ago and flew from Barcelona to Doha. In Doha we had to wait a lot for our take off and we landed in Bangkok super late so I literally ran with Zoard and Assya to the check-in. We were the last one but who can say no to a mother of two little ones.

I did not fly alone but when we followed the strategy of “be kind to us and look at these cute children…”,my husband had to take the elevator (we took the escalators) because we had so many luggage.

I wish I took a picture of me with the nursing pillow on my neck and Assya in the carrier while pulling Zoard’s Trunki. Oh well!

I think the key to flying with children, is to view yourself as someone, who is part of a comic movie.

When Zoard had a massive melt-down because of lack of sleep, I admit I changed my philosophy and became the most patient Saint on this planet. This helped me when he was scratching, kicking me (we were waiting for our boarding).

I need to share something horrible that made me silently cry throughout our journey.

I understand that some grandmothers were idiots.

I understand that being under educated is a huge problem.

But roughly shaking a crying child is NOT going to help. It can cause serious injuries!!!

Gently rocking.

Humming.

Walking.

Changing positions.

Taking big breaths.

These are techniques to follow.

Trying to make a crying baby drink, despite the fact that the baby is NOT  hungry/thirsty is WRONG.

STOP doing it when you see that your baby is gagging.
STOP when your baby is trying to turn his head away from the bottle. Or even your breasts.
STOP when your baby is still crying, no matter how many times you are trying to calm him with a bottle.

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Check his diaper. Change it even if it is “just” pee. Some babies are more sensitive than others.

Help your baby fall asleep. This can be done by patience on your part. Gentle rocking, singing, humming can help you. If the seatbelt sign is not on, start walking or squatting…

Being a parent can make you feel lonely and helpless, try to reach out for help.

You can connect with me on Instagram: @zoardminiboy.

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How To Raise a Traveler

Traveling is really part of our life and I am embracing it more and more. Last month we stayed at five hotels in ten days and I felt I was fed up but then we got back to the island and after a few days, I was ready to talk about packing again.

This month we will be seen on three continents. We will spend five more days in Thailand, a week in Spain, a week in Hungary and ten days in the States. We will head back to Thailand once we had enough pie pops.

I really liked an approach, I never thought of,  that points out traveling teaches you an expected behavior that is useful (please read more about it on the travelsmartblog). I never thought of it this way. But it is certainly true, that our Zoard really knows how to behave at check-ins that take time, he understands the main rules on an airplane and automatically fastens his seat belt after sitting down; he understands that at times you need to take a car, a ferry, a bus, an airplane and a taxi to reach your destination. And at other times, you need to take three different airplanes to touch the ground you want to be at.

I also read that your way of dealing with the down-sides of traveling is also a lesson to learn. Fathomaway has some ground rules that I liked. I am an entertainer and I am beyond relaxed about traveling when my husband is with us. He does the packing and organizing and carries everything heavy while I chat away with Zoard.

At we3travel you can read tips about traveling with family. The article uses cute little symbols to help you understand the basics.

The reason, why I am not handing out advises is because I have already done so, toddler related here.  And baby related traveling here.

I received questions regarding Zoard’s personality and his attitude towards traveling.

He gets emotional about packing so though we might have our suitcases out a few days ahead, the real packing only takes place a day before leaving. We try to pack his toys and books the last. He does get involved in the packing to some extend but because he is a big fan of unpacking, I try to direct his attention towards checking under beds and in drawers to see if we leave anything behind.

I would not say he has a strong attachment to his stuffed rabbit but before going to the airport, he likes to hold it. He is always fine with putting the rabbit in a suitcase at the very last minute but that is the point when I make sure he can hold on to something else to feel secure. Today I gave him the case of my cell phone and I also had a rock in my pocket just in case. Later at the check-in, I gave him crackers and he was both satisfied with munching and just holding it. I guess, this is a trick good to know. Most children at this age like to hold something in their hands and if they do not have an object or a snack in their hands for some reason, it is smart to offer them something. Even a dirty tissue will do. Seriously!

I always tell Zoard the name of the hotel we are going to and if the hotel has a boring or difficult name, I just make one up. I call it maybe “the villa” or “the new hotel”. Zoard likes to know the logo of the company as well and he is also interested in knowing which company we are flying with. Did I mention that he is verbal beyond his age?! HAHA

I better wake Zoard up. We pulled the curtains in to make the room dark and I think we did too good of a job and he has been sleeping for almost three hours now instead of his usual two. We like to stick to his daily schedule no matter where we are.

Thanks for reading! Please feel free to follow us on Instagram: @zoardminiboy!!

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Which Country Are You in Now?!

The last time I wrote a post, we were in Spain. Now we are in Thailand again and in between we spent a few weeks in Hungary.

Zoard has been mainly busy adoring his grandmothers and we have been busy eating. Now that we are back in Thailand, we do not have grandparents to smile at and we hardly eat. Alright, I am exaggerating…

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We came back to Samui five days ago and I have been taking an advantage of the weather here. Sure it rains a lot but who can complain when we do not need to wear tights anymore. Unless we want to wear tights…

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I take a lot of pictures for the sweet shops that send us clothes for Zoard to promote and I like to make it fun for Zoard so basically I let him do whatever pleases him. Unless I ask him to stand in front of a wall I really like in which case there is no guarantee that he will turn his cheeks so that the sunlight can fall evenly on him… But that is my problem, not his. HAHA

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Now let us discuss my NEXT post. I would like to write an update about Zoard since he will be 2 years old 2 days from now. Any questions or topics that come to Your mind?
I will probably look at the milestones of a 2 year old but if You wish to draw my attention to something, do not hesitate to comment.

Oh and I changed our Instagram username to ZOARDMINIBOY.

Thank you for reading!!!

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It’s My Birthday and I’ll Cry if I Want to

Do you know the song “It’s My Party” from Lesley Gore? Would you like to listen to it while reading this post?!

Click here if you would.

It was my birthday and people were great about it. It is insane how many people stopped by to send me a nice message on Facebook and Instagram. It still makes me smile.

However, I was stopped by an acquaintance of mine who totally lost the point of birthdays at least in my point of view. She and her two other friends kept asking me what I got as a present from my husband. It is lame to say so but I think my husband is already a present.

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Maybe the question is what do we focus on as we get older? “Are we watching the right picture?!” – as we could say if we would translate a “famous” Hungarian saying. (I can just see many of my Hungarian readers nodding their heads and telling themselves there is no such saying in Hungarian… HAHA)

Anyways, my point is this:

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My birthday was on Sunday and we did the usual Sunday stuff: Zoard fed the sheeps and we had sushi. And I liked it very much that we did not change our family traditions.

I got a surprise and it was very interesting for me on an emotional level.

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Zoard got to experience being on a speed boat for the very first time. There were some pretty big waves on the sea (which I had the chance to experience) and it was amazing to hear my boys yell out from the boat: “very goooood!”

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It was amazing! If you have never tried wake boarding before, you should put it on your wish list.

My birthday was a bit of a day without too much camera action. I do get slightly obsessed about taking pictures so it is nice to set some limits.

I could not resist this shot because it is so Zoard…

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But otherwise, if you wish to see more and more pictures like this one:

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Join us on Instagram. My user name is: krokovayeszter.

What is a must for you when it comes to birthdays?! Cakes and coffee???

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I Have Been A Bad Bad Girl

I have always been the analytical type way before I became a psychologist. I like to break a situation into pieces when I observe something even if it involves me.

I posted a picture on Instagram that I knew was inappropriate. Why did I do it then?! I am obsessive when it comes to small goals. I dislike big challenges, I do not move mountains but I can build a small, sweet-looking hill out of sand. And this tiny goal of mine at the moment is to become a representative of a brand that is looking for mamas to advertise their tops for exercising. Are you smiling?!

So I had to take a picture of myself showing my whole body. I did this with a ten seconds timer. Ten seconds is already a lot of time when you have a toddler wondering around on concrete. I could not find a better place to put down my camera then where I put it and I had to come up with a pose that will show my body but which also allows me to stay low down. Luckily, Zoard did not fall down a steep slope but the slopes around the villa we live in at the moment are extremely steep so I did not wish to risk it by taking another shot.

OK so I got this off my chest. I did it and now that I did it, it would be silly to delete this capture until the search is over. I feel like my feed became pornographic. I can be so so brainless when I want something that is within arm reach. Well… It is another question to ask: do I really stand a chance to be picked out from a group of bodybuilding ladies?! Do not worry, I will let you know if I become famous. Immediately.

If you became curious about my pictures in Instagram, please keep focus and look at the pictures Zoard is on. Thanks!

My Instagram user name is: krokovayeszter.

Now tell me something just as stupid that you did for a freebie or to win something….

In Search of The Perfect Stuffed Animal

We all need a project. I sure do! We have been in Bangkok for a month now. I go to shopping centers with Zoard nearly everyday. Oh I am not the only foreigner dressed up against the air conditioning at the Lego table.

Most of these children’s departments have a little area with a table where you can play with some Lego. You can also try out the plastic house that is placed close to the plastic cars and motorbikes.  Basically, you can play with anything as long as you do not cause any damage. And another big advantage is that you are not breathing in the air pollution.

Therefor, I am surrounded by all these toys and we already bought Zoard some Duplo, Play-doh and washable Crayola markers. We are supposed to be the parents who suggest their child to play with the toilet paper roll! Anyways, it got me thinking… Zoard started a new habit of holding my hands while falling asleep so maybe he needs a stuffed animal. Yes, one and not more.

I have started searching for the perfect “teddy bear” and I need Your help.

I would like something cuddly and unique. A stuffed animal that is also nice to take pictures of. Zoard is now the brand representative of five brands…

So please find a way to contact me if you have a suggestion. You can comment with a link perhaps or message me on Instagram.
My username is: krokovayeszter

A Day in The Hotel We Live in

When you live in a five star hotel, nobody else has to feel empathy towards you. Seriously. I UNDERSTAND. Why would anyone think about how it must be tough for us that we sometimes lack privacy? I am not comparing ourselves to celebrities but I too have to think twice once I leave our room.

When more than 100 people work for a hotel, you know you will bump in to someone in less than two minutes. This is why, I decided to start a mini project. I will take pictures of Zoard interacting with others. 

Zoard likes to make the first move towards others. Once he has done this, he is really kind and friendly. The challenge for me is to make the situation not so uncomfortable when someone is too eager to become BBF with Zoard. 

Zoard likes it when he can watch someone or even help out like he did today. Picking grass with one of the gardeners was something that really suited him:

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He prefers to be independent and he does not stand in line to be picked up with a few exceptions. All buggy (golf cart that takes the guests up and down the mountain) drivers are a saint and he knows that hanging out with them is a treat. So even if others are decorating the reception (which is also quite cool…) he will prefer a saintly driver:

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If I am not around, which is almost never than selfies are popular with Zoard but how much nicer it is when I offer to take a picture (which I will do more in the future).

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How would you describe your child when it comes to socializing?

 

 

How Did You Meet Your Latest Friend?

Today I am going to start off by posting a picture to replace the one I picked yesterday as a capture to close my blog post with. Hopefully this one will be more friendly looking… HAHA

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And now tell me about your friend, the one you met some time this year maybe?! Last year?! The last one you met.
 
Yesterday I was reading an email from a girl whom I met in Barcelona and she was asking if I have met any friends yet. I actually thought for a moment that that is a very inconsiderate question to ask. I was murmuring to myself doesn’t she understand my situation?!

Well maybe it is hard to picture the way we live here or maybe I am not doing something right.

Side note: I am sure I had hundreds of people read my blog at least one time and nobody ever commented: hey I live on Koh Samui too!

I looked at several expat communities but it is not helping me out if I find friends in Bangkok…

The hotel we live in is fully booked as we speak so why don’t I just dig in and find a cute friend among the cute looking hotel guests?!
 
Have you ever been on a holiday or in a nice restaurant where you ended up being best friends with the general manager’s wife? It does not work this way. Even if I open up to someone who is here for a short time, the person is going to go back! I recently met a super adorable Australian family. They had a son Zoard’s age, they were cool and very kind but they went back to Melbourne and they did not mention moving to Koh Samui… 

The whole truth is that I am not even that eager to start a conversation with anyone because I do not want to end up liking them and seeing them leave. I already have pen friends. And many people on Instagram are beyond nice. Oh speaking of Instagram…

See the picture on the right corner? On the top. That is my latest picture from Instagram. I tried every single way, to type in above it that this is a picture from my Instagram. No luck. How will anyone know that if they click on it, they find my Instagram account? Ideas, anyone? Maybe You will know…

Alright back to you and your friend. Come on make me jealous! HAHA