My Biggest Conflict With My Son Is…

I do not HAVE TO start by stating that Zoard is easy to get along with but it is true that explaining to him things and distracting him when needed works pretty well on him so we do not have mayor conflicts about food or when to leave the playground.

People used to tell me “I have never heard him cry”. Well, I am a yes man and it is my job to be super sensitive to others when I wish to be…

The problem we are facing is that he finds it very difficult to do something without mammy or daddy.

I am an extremely needy person so I understand that it is great to be around your loved ones but we are at the point where I feel that if he would be ten percent as needy as he is now, I would feel much much better in my shoes. And this has been going on for a long time now so it shows that I was able to live with his neediness because our lifestyle encouraged him to be this way, plus as I said, I get it: it is very nice to share all your excitements and challenges with the ones you love the most…

It is just the two of us nice since a week ago my husband left to Thailand so I thought this is the time to make a change. I wrote my diploma in assertive behavior so I do not necessarily find it hard to say no to others. We have done quite a few sleep training so I think my heart does not brake anymore when Zoard starts crying.

I dislike the sound of loud crying, that is probably nothing new to say. But now Zoard is starting to lose his voice and it is so tough to do this that I am writing about it! HAHA

You treat laryngitis by plenty of fluids and resting the voice. I could easily say, I will do this training or whatever we call it some other time. But there is always something that comes up with us. Many times I try to protect him from frustration because well “we just moved”. But we moved more than ten times in the past months.

Now that I do not have housekeepers, chefs and engineers help me out, it is extremely hard to do any house work with a toddler who gets super irritated by the fact that I do not go and play with him. I try to engage him in whatever I do and that works for a certain amount of the time. But taking a shower or having a phone call is on the devil’s list if you ask Zoard.

In respectful parenting one technique is to sit by your child and just observe him playing. You can also use a type of mirroring language like for example when he says big truck, you do not say good job, you say that is a fantastic red huge truck and I saw that you even put a siren on top of it. This should help the child internalize a little monologue that he will be able to do by himself later on.

So maybe I should just stick to this and not throw Zoard in deep water when it makes him beyond upset causing his laryngitis to get worse.

Luckily I do not feel self-pitty but objectively I can see that it is not normal that I can hardly sit down to eat or go to the toilet. These are your problems when you have a newborn!

I did have a mini success today so I quickly took a picture.

I personally think that mini furniture and mini objects that help young children copy the adult world is really good! We use my nursing chair’s stool as a mini table and sometimes Zoard has a snack on it. And in these cases I do not have to be an arm away from him.

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Long Flight with a Toddler

How long is long? We broke our trip in to two parts because we had to get to Barcelona by flying to Bangkok from Koh Samui. To Helsinki from Bangkok and we had a Helsinki – Barcelona flight in the end so the first part was Koh Samui – Bangkok and we spent two nights in Bangkok.

Bangkok – Helsinki was more than 11 hours.

Helsinki – Barcelona was an extra 3 hours, plus waiting in between.

Packing FOOD

Zoard does not eat salt nor sugar. My husband is on a low cholesterol diet and I breastfeed so I need some action when my blood sugar plays tricks on me.

Washed apples
Bananas

Cooked plain rice

Cooked chicken

Cheddar cheese

Whole grain, fitness bread (brand name: Delba)

Cooked beans, peas, corn and carrots

Two kinds of melon

Grapes

The last three was from a salad bar we went to in Bangkok. This was the most fun eating for Zoard since it was his finger food that he ate independently finding joy in picking out the bits he wanted.

Suggestion: you can never pack too much snacks.

When to Get on the Plane

If there is two of you my suggestion is that one of you take the advantage of being with a child so get on the air plane with those who can go first. Get everything sorted out, make a mental map of the things you brought along to survive the trip.

The parent with the toddler should get on last. Try to encourage your little one to run and climb and move around as much as possible.

When you are boarding to get on your last plane which if you are lucky is a shorter journey, board first. By that time, your son or daughter might be dead tired.

Entertaiment

We do not let Zoard watch any movies yet so we needed to prepare well ahead…

Zoard has been on a plane many times but nevertheless, this is an experience so make it special if you can. We started talking about this trip at least a week ahead. And as the date got closer I told more and more about our plans to Zoard. He knew that we would transfer in Finland and that his stroller will be checked-in with our other suitcases etc.

Seat back pocket and its treasures

Reading the Safety Card

Magazines (we found a magazines about trucks and vegetables while waiting… bonus!! Oh I am talking about 2 magazines by the way, not one about trucks AND vegetables HAHA)

Let your toddler MOVE around if you feel that he or she is safe doing so.

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Zoard found crawling to be safer.

Drawing

I put a rubber band around some pencils and we brought some paper.
If you draw a story it is an extra thing to do.

Photo Album

We printed out old photos with Zoard on them, plus I downloaded some pictures (and had them printed out) that I thought would make an interesting topic for Zoard. Puppies with sticks, helicopters, giraffe, old lady singing in a microphone, lady bug etc.

Matchbox Car

We bought a new one for Zoard when we thought his old one got lost. But I do not think you necessarily need to spend money on new toys.

Tip: hide some toys and small books a week or two before your trip. It will have a positive effect on your little one.

3 Rolls of Colorful Tape

We got these but did not use them in the end.

Duplo

Zoard likes to build the tops parts of Duplo cars so this was nice for him to do.

Mini plastic plane in a sock

Some kids like unwrapping I read. I used an old baby sock to hide a toy a week before.

Make up a new ritual or a game some days before your trip that your kid finds funny of fun

I found out that Zoard can guess the names of songs just by humming parts of the songs. Very entertaining!

How to DRESS your child

We are a bit unusual perhaps when it comes to dressing Zoard because for example, he did not have any shoes and I dislike socks on little kids.

Zoard wore

Cotton tights
Cotton pants
Bodysuit
Sweater
Cotton sweater that looks like a jacket

Diapers
I asked my husband to pack 7, he packed 10 and we used up 4 or 5.

Landings – take offs

Make your child suck.
Zoard is still breastfeeding…

Dried out skin (lips)

If anyone has an idea how to prevent cracked lips, I am happy to hear. Zoard was the least affected by this but I did put some olive oil on his lips today.

Sleeping

Zoard had his nap time when he usually sleeps during the afternoon though it was a little bit shorter and he also slept in the evening when we were flying from Helsinki. Both times he fell asleep breastfeeding and I rocked him a little bit.

Front row

On the longer flight we payed extra to sit in the front row. I highly recommend it.

Stay calm

Flying in the sky in something you chose to do. There are people who never leave their home and who do not have to deal with problems like flying with a toddler. It is part of the deal. Try to stay calm and plan ahead. Work with your partner as a team player and if you fly alone remember that you are part of the Super Heroes Club.

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Happy dancing on the floor…

We had a few melt downs when we were waiting for our last plane. It happens. It is not easy for a child… Be kind.

It’s My Birthday and I’ll Cry if I Want to

Do you know the song “It’s My Party” from Lesley Gore? Would you like to listen to it while reading this post?!

Click here if you would.

It was my birthday and people were great about it. It is insane how many people stopped by to send me a nice message on Facebook and Instagram. It still makes me smile.

However, I was stopped by an acquaintance of mine who totally lost the point of birthdays at least in my point of view. She and her two other friends kept asking me what I got as a present from my husband. It is lame to say so but I think my husband is already a present.

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Maybe the question is what do we focus on as we get older? “Are we watching the right picture?!” – as we could say if we would translate a “famous” Hungarian saying. (I can just see many of my Hungarian readers nodding their heads and telling themselves there is no such saying in Hungarian… HAHA)

Anyways, my point is this:

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My birthday was on Sunday and we did the usual Sunday stuff: Zoard fed the sheeps and we had sushi. And I liked it very much that we did not change our family traditions.

I got a surprise and it was very interesting for me on an emotional level.

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Zoard got to experience being on a speed boat for the very first time. There were some pretty big waves on the sea (which I had the chance to experience) and it was amazing to hear my boys yell out from the boat: “very goooood!”

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It was amazing! If you have never tried wake boarding before, you should put it on your wish list.

My birthday was a bit of a day without too much camera action. I do get slightly obsessed about taking pictures so it is nice to set some limits.

I could not resist this shot because it is so Zoard…

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But otherwise, if you wish to see more and more pictures like this one:

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Join us on Instagram. My user name is: krokovayeszter.

What is a must for you when it comes to birthdays?! Cakes and coffee???

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I Have Been A Bad Bad Girl

I have always been the analytical type way before I became a psychologist. I like to break a situation into pieces when I observe something even if it involves me.

I posted a picture on Instagram that I knew was inappropriate. Why did I do it then?! I am obsessive when it comes to small goals. I dislike big challenges, I do not move mountains but I can build a small, sweet-looking hill out of sand. And this tiny goal of mine at the moment is to become a representative of a brand that is looking for mamas to advertise their tops for exercising. Are you smiling?!

So I had to take a picture of myself showing my whole body. I did this with a ten seconds timer. Ten seconds is already a lot of time when you have a toddler wondering around on concrete. I could not find a better place to put down my camera then where I put it and I had to come up with a pose that will show my body but which also allows me to stay low down. Luckily, Zoard did not fall down a steep slope but the slopes around the villa we live in at the moment are extremely steep so I did not wish to risk it by taking another shot.

OK so I got this off my chest. I did it and now that I did it, it would be silly to delete this capture until the search is over. I feel like my feed became pornographic. I can be so so brainless when I want something that is within arm reach. Well… It is another question to ask: do I really stand a chance to be picked out from a group of bodybuilding ladies?! Do not worry, I will let you know if I become famous. Immediately.

If you became curious about my pictures in Instagram, please keep focus and look at the pictures Zoard is on. Thanks!

My Instagram user name is: krokovayeszter.

Now tell me something just as stupid that you did for a freebie or to win something….

Send Me Your Face

Hello, to everyone who just joined in. We  live on this beautiful island that makes us drop our jaws every single day. If you would like to read more about our adventurous go ahead and browse in the posts I wrote about what it is like to live in a hotel.

What it is Like Living in a Hotel I

What it is Like Living in a Hotel II

What it is Like Living in a Hotel III

What it is Like Living in a Hotel IV

Bonus what it is like living in a hotel

We Left The Hotel for an Hour
(this one has more outside pictures…)

My birthday is coming up soon. Two weeks before I turn 35. And I would like to start a project of taking a picture of myself every day. I did this when I was pregnant and that was for 41 weeks so it should not be too hard… HAHA I will post my first picture 5-6 hours from now on Instagram.

Would you like to join me in some way or another?! 

Find me on Instagram: krokovayeszter is my username.

I hope to see your face around!!!

 

How To Dress Boys – Men of The Future Part 2

A little over a year ago I wrote the first part of this post. And now that Zoard is a brand representative I feel even more eager to show the parents with sons to be more brave when it comes to dressing their boys.

You can see pictures of Zoard from the first post HERE.

I would like to start by showing off a pair of leggings and beanies that were made by Wild Little Ones Apparel. I know that you will ask me about their website… Click HERE please.

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Unless you put your kids only in black clothes, you are already buying clothes that are blue or green or navy etc. So you already conquered your fear of colors, right?! Next step is to befriend patterns. If you are comfortable with seeing animals or cars on your son, start with that then!

You might have a strange smile on your face right now and ask the same question a friend of mine asked me. “Can boys wear leggings?” Well think about boys and earrings… For some boys, guys and men earrings are super cool so yes, leggings are very much trendy nowadays and they became unisex.

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If you feel that you would like to experiment with leggings and beanies but you are not sure where to start then start with black.

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And you will see that you will reach the advanced level in just a few weeks.

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I picked out this picture on purpose to provoke you. Never be boring! Life is interesting and awesome why not dress your children accordingly…

Check out my post on How Important is Gender to You it relates to this topic…

You can find us on Instagram. My username is krokovayeszter.

Thank you for visiting and please comment below if you wish to. xoxo

 

 

I Wish I Could Read Your Mind

I am trying to figure out what is it that You would enjoy reading about. Of course, you can say I should write about whatever comes to my mind or about that one topic that is sitting on the shelf of my heart.

Well, my shelf has an amazon standing on it. If you are lost in transition, I am in amazon mode, I am a female warrior at the moment taking every day as it comes. We came back from Bangkok after many weeks of climbing the mountains of air pollution and found that we cannot stay at our hotel because it is absolutely full.

And if you blush a little in the cheeks and suggest I write instead about the thoughts that come to my mind, I might just shock you that I am fantasizing about a pair of BOOTS. Specifically, what kind would I get IF we would go to Hungary for Christmas.

Could you recommend me some nice boots please?!

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I just remembered another interesting topic. Not related to any kind of boots. On Instagram I read under a belfie (selfie of your belly) that unless you have Brad Pitt-abs you should not post selfies all the time. It made me think. And my first question was: ” how about I post anything that I feel like in my feed any time I like?!” HAHA

If this made you curious about my Instagram feed, please follow me @krokovayeszter…..