Diary of a Mother of 2

Catchy title, right?! I am going to have fun with this one (this post)! It is crazy how much time passed since my last post. Were we still in Thailand at the time?! Probably. And we will be on Samui again, you just wait for my next post. But as for now, we are in Budapest. I am enjoying everyday life with Assya and Zoard. Assya will be 8 months old on the 23rd of this month (August) and Zoard is 3.5 years old.

Currently:
Assya is exploring a toy box.
Zoard is singing to himself in his room. Occasionally he lets me know how lonely he is.It is nap time. For him.

Going out:
This is what I am most proud of. I take the kids out a lot. In the morning and in the afternoon. I organize an insane amount of playdates and we use public transportation on a daily basis. Assya is not so much a fan after a certain time so I usually take her out of her stroller and she sits in my lap or I take the carrier with me.

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I still take pictures as you can see. I started a collection of Zoard pushing Assya. On Instagram I have started a tag #pushingassya. Please let me know if you also have a hashtag of your own. I was inspired by a few mamas who have been doing their own tags and projects, I find it lovely!

Sleeping

Zoard still hasn’t started his afternoon nap which is frankly, quite bad. He should be napping between 2 and 4 and now it is 3pm. It will be very difficult waking him up, once he falls asleep, not to mention that he will not be tired until 10. But we will be.

Our bedroom is super dark in the mornings, and I am usually quiet and slow when I am waken up by Zoard, but let me see if I can find any pictures… morning (or sleeping) related.

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Cute picture but around dawn, I am too sleepy to put Assya back in her cot and Zoard climbs in our bed at …who knows when… I just notice my bed space shrinking… so this is NOT a morning shot.

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I really took this one in the morning. Zoard was showing us what he looks like when he is asleep.

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You see how small our bed is?! Imagine me and my husband in it and these two, plus the swan! HAHA

EATING

We eat a lot but it is not so flattering to take pictures of anyone while they have tasty or not so tasty food hanging out of their mouth.

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She is not crying. She is grateful. We are doing baby led weaning again. (Assya is making friends with some apples.)

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Carrots… yumm!

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By the way, my husband does most of the cooking.

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Zoard still eats healthy foods but like I said, I tend not to take pictures of him doing so.

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On the other hand, you can find lots of pictures of me nursing Assya. I feel very strongly about breastfeeding.  And she is still just playing with the vegetables and fruits we give her so basically, breastmilk is all she gets. We do not give her water either.

PLAYING

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Here is a shot of one of the coolest playdates we had. Do you see a pattern here?!
You can find Kriszta’s blog here.

Assya is telling me I must stop right now and play with her. Yes, ma’am

See you on Instagram @zoardandassya!

 

 

 

 

 

 

I am Looking for a Partner

I have been exercising in the morning. Assya usually watches me from our bed or her rocker. And Zoard is either folding clothes on our bed, getting his friends dressed up or he is painting.

So as you can imagine, my exercising routine is quick and you can even do it in the company of two children in the room.

It would help me if I would know that someone else is doing the exercising with me.

We could drop each other a message once we completed the daily exercising.

Here it is.

I do the 4 workouts 3 times as you can read about it in the post.

It takes less than 20 minutes.

I listen to this while I do the workouts. I think I repeat the song 3 or 4 times.

All you need is a towel and it is nicer to do the whole workout in shoes.

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You can contact me on Instagram @zoardminiboy and we can talk about the details of our partnership.

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I gave birth 3 months ago and I breastfeed. The exercising I am hoping you will join me in, will not affect your milk supply.

And yes, my nursing top can be bought online here.

I will hopefully get healthy with you!

xoxo, Eszter
@zoardminiboy

 

 

 

Hello from Thailand

It is not always easy to know which country we are in. Maybe that is part of who we are. Nomads.

Today I am writing from Thailand. We packed up are things a week ago and flew from Barcelona to Doha. In Doha we had to wait a lot for our take off and we landed in Bangkok super late so I literally ran with Zoard and Assya to the check-in. We were the last one but who can say no to a mother of two little ones.

I did not fly alone but when we followed the strategy of “be kind to us and look at these cute children…”,my husband had to take the elevator (we took the escalators) because we had so many luggage.

I wish I took a picture of me with the nursing pillow on my neck and Assya in the carrier while pulling Zoard’s Trunki. Oh well!

I think the key to flying with children, is to view yourself as someone, who is part of a comic movie.

When Zoard had a massive melt-down because of lack of sleep, I admit I changed my philosophy and became the most patient Saint on this planet. This helped me when he was scratching, kicking me (we were waiting for our boarding).

I need to share something horrible that made me silently cry throughout our journey.

I understand that some grandmothers were idiots.

I understand that being under educated is a huge problem.

But roughly shaking a crying child is NOT going to help. It can cause serious injuries!!!

Gently rocking.

Humming.

Walking.

Changing positions.

Taking big breaths.

These are techniques to follow.

Trying to make a crying baby drink, despite the fact that the baby is NOT  hungry/thirsty is WRONG.

STOP doing it when you see that your baby is gagging.
STOP when your baby is trying to turn his head away from the bottle. Or even your breasts.
STOP when your baby is still crying, no matter how many times you are trying to calm him with a bottle.

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Check his diaper. Change it even if it is “just” pee. Some babies are more sensitive than others.

Help your baby fall asleep. This can be done by patience on your part. Gentle rocking, singing, humming can help you. If the seatbelt sign is not on, start walking or squatting…

Being a parent can make you feel lonely and helpless, try to reach out for help.

You can connect with me on Instagram: @zoardminiboy.

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Do I Need To Be Afraid?!

Zoard is 3 years old now and a few weeks ago, he started experimenting in a whole new way.

He is not a sous chef anymore, he does not want to “just watch” the events.

He bakes and he makes preparations to bake. Sometimes on his own…

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This recipe is called Lovizilo. It has a whole bag of rice in it, oat flour, powdered paprika (the Hungarian touch to it, I guess), peanut butter, grapes etc.

I tried telling him later on, that perhaps it is best if we do the baking together.

This morning, he told me that he has a little blog which does not have a Look Book but it does have recipes like the one he would like to bake next. It has brown berries and zucchini in it.

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I can proudly say, that the zucchini cake turned out great. We put kefir in it and one piece of date as can be seen on this shot.

If you look closer, you will also see that Zoard chopped off his hair today and that was a shock for me.

I am really supportive of his crazy scientist behavior as much as possible but I just do not know what will come next.

Nevertheless, he is great!

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See more on Instagram… @zoardminiboy

Kisses

 

Assya is 1 month old

I will give you a quick update with lovely pictures. That is my deal. Deal?!

Assya weighs 5 kg-s.

She is a great partner in breastfeeding though we have our challenges. You would like to know what?! I am leaking, squirting… making her choke on my milk. I read about this so now I am surrounded with paper towels that Zoard helps me fold. I stop the feeding when the squirting starts… Nevertheless, Assya has to be changed many times because I make her clothes wet with my milk and she swallows a lot of air and started to recently spit up. The upward positions do help.

We go to sleep around 11. She wakes up twice during the night. This is a bliss. I am never tired.

She can also take long naps while we are outside. We put her in her cot and if we happen to be outside for hours, I nurse her in a fitting room. I could breastfeed her anywhere but nowadays, we have been looking for clothes on sale. You cannot blame us, we live in Barcelona after all!

Assya gets fussy before bedtime. We carry her a lot.

She also calms down when laying on her changing pad (from IKEA).

So far, her baby mobile is not a hit with Assya but Zoard is a fan…

Assya has gorgeous clothes. Let me show you some examples…

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Onesie from KateQuinnOrganics.

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Fox onesie from Igloindi.

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Footsie from LovedBaby.

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Matching outfit from Belabumbum.

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Matching beanies from: Ryderl.
Matching jackets from: LittleIndians.

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Outfit from Agiftedbaby.
Sunglasses from FjsPopShop.

Thank you for reading! See you on Instagram @zoardminiboy, I hope we can become friends! xoxo

 

My Baby Turned 3 Years Old

There is a lot of talking about what is “fake” and what is “real” and I personally enjoy both worlds. I like to see birthday parties with well thought out themes and gigantic balloons, at the same time, candid shots can also be beyond beautiful.

Zoard is not a fan of seeing me take pictures of him when we are in our everyday moments.  And as much as I can, I try to be respectful about this. If you look at my Instagram feed @zoardminiboy, you will see that a lot of my pictures are planned out.

For Zoard’s 3rd birthday we tried to think with a three year old’s head. Or more like Zoard’s head…

So for example, he did not have a surprise cake instead I baked his birthday cake with him because I know that he loves cooking and baking. He enjoys being part of it all.

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As soon as the cake was finished, Zoard was ready to dig in… He previously, picked out his pink cake from a Disney book written in the 20s called Daddies.

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Here is a real moment capture for you. Zoard did not wish to wear a party hat and he sometimes hides when he is not sure how to behave in a situation.

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We made a gigantic mess with confetti that I was sure he will be over the moon about. Well, it turned out, Zoard was more in to cleaning the confetti up…

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His presents were simple ones. A note book, funky tapes (Scotch tapes), a puzzle and some apple crisps. The crisps was the biggest hit. He is very nice when it comes to sharing…

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Thank you for reading and hope to see you on Instagram @zoardminiboy !

Postpartum Post: I Had To Be Operated On

It is all quiet around me. Could it be that Zoard went to bed all on his own?! Assya is napping peacefully next to me and I am… I am finally telling you what had happened.

I had a fever for a day and since I have experienced before, that breastfeeding can be hard on you in the beginning, I assumed my fever was in connection with some inflammation in my right breast.

Two days later, I had so much perineal pain that walking and sitting almost made me cry. And later, walking and sitting did make me cry.

To make a long story short, I had a hematoma and it needed to be operated on. The four of us waited until midnight at the emergency unit of the hospital I gave birth at. I was able to go home for the night and this gave us some time to quickly arrange my mother-in-law to fly in.

The next day I was operated on and everything worked out well. Zoard spent three hours in the hospital waiting to see me in the company of his grandmother. Assya was being fed by her daddy from a special bottle and I was able to tell the staff of the hospital, that I am not going to any operating room, before I squeeze some milk out of myself for my daughter. Breastfeeding is beyond important to us. And I knew, that even the quickest operation would be too long for Assya. (When she is awake, she asks to be breastfed every hour…)

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Judging from the sounds, I will have to change Assya’s diaper so I better speed it up.

Yesterday, I took my last antibiotics and I stopped taking Ibuprofen and Paracetamol a little less than a week ago.

I am still taking my iron tablet in the mornings on an empty stomach with a glass of orange juice.

I will take my vitamins (Femibion) for a year even though I plan on breastfeeding longer than that.

I try to use an intensive stretch mark cream before putting on my Belly Shield and my Belly Bandit. More on both here.

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I only wear nursing clothes and this bra is a special nursing bra from BoobDesign. See more from them here. They just released an exciting new collection.

I would also like to give credit to Zoard who has made the lovely paintings behind me.

In the mean time, Assya had a blow out. I have to take off our bed sheet as well. I better get going. You can find me on Instagram @zoardminiboy. Thanks for reading!!!